Overwhelming Career? How to Back out of Anything Gracefully

overwhelming careerWe’re all faced with overwhelming career decisions. After all, it seems like a good idea to agree to more work that will improve your stead at the office. And there’s no harm in saying yes to new experiences or adventures, right?

Filling up your schedule, whether it’s your professional or personal calendar, can be a good thing. But overdoing it isn’t — especially when you start to feel like you’re in over your head. Fortunately, when you need to take a step back at work, you can do so gracefully.

Here are seven tips that should help…

1. Be Remorseful

Chances are, you feel genuine regret that you have to reconfigure your schedule. Let this sentiment shine through when you break the bad news. Think about it — there’d be nothing worse than saying you can’t take on any extra assignments with a smile on your face. Make it clear that you’re sorry, and the person on the other end will be more likely to understand your reasoning.

2. Apologize, Don’t Excuse

Changing your plans can create an inconvenience to those involved. No matter what your rationale for doing so, slinging a handful of excuses won’t assuage the situation. That’s especially true if you find yourself canceling regularly — your coworkers (and friends and family away from work) will undoubtedly tire of the routine.

Don’t offer up reasons for the switch. Instead, simply apologize to those affected. Again, make sure your words and your sentiment are sincere. And be specific about what you’ve jumbled, and what you’ll do better in the future to properly schedule your time.

3. Do It ASAP

As soon as you know you’ve overcommitted — and as soon as you decide on what has to go — reach out to those involved. With more notice, they might be able to find another person to complete the project. Last-minute cancellations aren’t polite, and you don’t want someone important to you feeling like you’ve left them hanging, so don’t do it.

4. Ask for Help

Some cancellations are notoriously tough to make. If you feel as though you can’t back out on your own, bring in reinforcements. If you’re contractually or legally bound to do something, a professional can come to your aid. Hiring someone to help you get out of the deal will make the process simpler for you.

5. Suggest a Future Fix

It turns out that you’re too busy to take on an additional to-do. But you have some free time next week or next month to really focus on the proposed task — could you put it off until then? It wouldn’t hurt to ask.

Committing to a future endeavor since you’ve had to cancel the current one shows that you’re serious. Whether it’s your boss or your best friend on the other end, they’ll appreciate your attempt to rectify the situation at a later date. And you never know — you might be able to put off that project for a few extra days so that you have time to tend to it along with all of your other responsibilities.

6. Take Steps to Improve

The I-can’t-manage-my-time excuse will only work for so long. So if you feel like you’re experiencing an overwhelming career now, take steps to avoid this feeling in the future. One of the most important scheduling tips is to be realistic — what can you actually achieve in the amount of time you’re given? You only have eight hours in a workday and five or so of them after you clock out, after all.

You should also leave yourself some wiggle room. A fully packed calendar has no margin for error or emergencies. Knowing you’re missing something in the midst of an unexpected event will only make it more stressful, so don’t over-pack.

7. Go Easy on Yourself

Remember: This sort of thing happens to everyone. Even your manager has had to cancel on someone, so they should have sympathy for you if you’re feeling overwhelmed. On top of that, most people will find it easy to move forward and give you the benefit of the doubt, which means your reputation won’t suffer any damage. You’ll be trusted in your job or in your relationships in the future.

Just make sure that backing out never becomes a habit for you, as constant cancellations will put a damper on your reputation. Instead, be honest with others and with yourself — take on what you can handle, no more overwhelming career choices.

Everyone, especially you, will be happier that way.



For this post, we’d like to thank our friends at Levo.





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