The internet is chock-full of advice on how to boost your career success. While most of these articles are helpful (I’ve written quite a few myself), they seem to largely focus on how to find success by yourself. But what about finding success through others? That’s where mentor relationships come into play.
Finding the right mentor to elevate your success, while lifting them up in return, can bring your career to a whole new level.
Here are four ways to successfully find (and keep) amazing mentor relationships:
Sometimes, it can be hard to break the ice and take that first step towards forming a relationship with a mentor, but don’t be afraid to reach out. People are often genuinely happy to help you navigate the twists and turns as you develop in your career. After all, they’ve been there. But in today’s busy world, you can’t expect them to seek you out. According to Development Dimensions International, “It isn’t because they aren’t willing to mentor; it’s that they are not being asked.” In fact, they found that a majority of women had only been asked once or twice, and one-fifth of women had never been asked.
Speaking as someone who has greatly benefitted (and still benefits!) from mentorship, being in a position now to give back to a new generation is very rewarding, and it’s one that I welcome with open arms.
Don’t Limit Yourself
When it comes to finding a mentor relationship, don’t feel that you have to limit yourself to people in your company or your field. In fact, they might even be hard to come by. Instead, seek to build common ground with anyone whose work you respect and who you would like to learn from.
Furthermore, you are limited to just one mentor.
Seek out many peoples’ genius zones and offer yours in return. The greatest learning opportunities can come from the most unexpected places.
Give and Get
Think about someone knocking on your door: Would you be more likely to open it for someone offering a bowl of chocolate chip cookies or a vacuum salesman? The best way to network, mentorship or otherwise, is to give before you get. In his book “Give and Take,” Wharton professor Adam Grant categorizes master networkers as givers. He found they build much stronger relationships than those who see professional connections as a zero-sum game.
So offer your unique advantages when you’re learning from others. It’s not only a good life practice, but I’ve found that for everything you give, you get back tenfold. Plus, by seeing an outsider’s perspective on your own knowledge, you’ll gain some unexpected insights.
Be Very Open to Feedback
The biggest is to find areas you can improve in, and see what you might be doing wrong. Show me a mentor scared to provide guidance. I’ll show you an example of poor mentor relationships. I get it: Feedback is personal – especially if it involves your career track or success.
Say it with me: All feedback is a gift.
Often, the feedback that makes us want to dig in our heels the most can prove to be the most valuable. Even if the feedback is harsh, you can dismiss any perceived tone of negativity. Instead, take learning opportunities from it.
Don’t color me wrong, you’ll want someone who can say “You can do it!” when things get tough. Maintaining an office full of “yes gals” may provide you with some ego boosts, but it will do nothing for your business. Meanwhile, criticism will show you the areas you most need to improve upon.
It is so important to have a strong mentor relationship to guide you, inspire you, and help you grow in your professional journey. Throughout my career, I have always been fortunate to have several mentors who push me to expect more from myself.
Mentors often have a larger vision for us than we have for ourselves, and their confidence inspires us to reach higher than we could have imagined on our own.
Take the time, whatever time it takes, to build mutually-beneficial mentor relationships.
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