Deliberately Surround Yourself With Those Who Give a Sh*t

I’m blessed to be surrounded by people who genuinely care.

At YouTern, at home, my family, friends and business partners – the young men and women I’ve coached in sports or are mentoring now – I’m surrounded by people who give a sh*t.

One day I realized: that’s probably not an accident. Or fate. Or circumstance. It’s entirely possible that because I’m passionate and vocal about what I care about – that attracts others who care, too.

Of course, not everyone cares about ALL I care about. A YouTern intern (a Dodgers fan, but we like her anyway) wouldn’t care at all about how I obsessively watch the San Francisco Giants while I write and work. However, she might at least respect my passion – even as she shakes her head, “whatever” style.

But with the big issues – such as the mission behind our start-up – people do care. Not just because I do, and not because I’m an autocrat who “makes” them care. But because we’ve found something in common to care about. We share a common goal.

I wonder how many young careerists, mentors, start-ups, companies, non-profits – and even big business – get to say that?

“We share a common goal”.

Translation: “We give a sh*t!”

So… what if each of us could simplify our business and personal relationships down to that concept? What if we deliberately, and without fail, surrounded ourselves exclusively with people who do care?

  • What if the next cover letter we sent showed that you really care? Would you be more likely to get the interview?
  • What if we would gracefully exit any relationship where the other person’s ranking on the “Give a Sh*t Meter” was in question?
  • What if we knew – beyond the shadow of a doubt – that our personal and professional success was directly related to the capacity of those within our sphere of influence to genuinely care?

Of course, caring alone doesn’t directly bring about success. Does anyone really care about their pet rock, Carly Rae Jepsen or skinny jeans? No – but each sold millions of units.

Still, most of us will take our chances – and care. Otherwise, how will we lead and motivate others toward accomplishing our common goals? How will we keep working nights and weekends on our passion projects? How will we pivot when times get tough?

If we – and those around us – don’t give a sh*t… how will we fail, and yet still have enough guts to try again?

Take some time over the weekend to look around you. Are you flanked by drama queens, divas, trolls and timesucks. Or are you surrounded by those who really care about accomplishing their goals… and helping you accomplish yours?

 

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About the Author: CEO and Founder of YouTern, Mark Babbitt is a serial mentor who has been quoted in the Wall Street Journal, Mashable, Forbes and Under30CEO.com regarding job search, career development, internships and higher education’s role in preparing emerging talent for the workforce. A keynote speaker and blogger, Mark’s contributions include Huffington Post, Bloomberg News, Switch and Shift, and Under30CEO.

Mark has been honored to be named to GenJuice’s list of “Top 100 Most Desirable Mentors” , HR Examiner’s “Top 25 Trendspotters in HR” and CareerBliss’ “Top 10 Gen Y Career Experts”. Mark is currently working on two new books: “A World Gone Social: How Business Must Adapt to Survive (AMACOM, June 2014) with Ted Coine and “The Ultimate Guide to Internships (And Making Your College Years Matter Again)” (Allworth, September 2014). Contact Mark via email or on Twitter!

 

 

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