I’ve read that one third of 20-somethings feel depressed. I believe it. And it’s easy to see why.
The society we live in today makes sure we compare every single aspect of our lives with that of other people. It makes me kind of nauseous just thinking about it.
In our twenties, we’re paving our path, digging through dirt, figuring out which road we’d like to go down. We’re discovering ourselves. We’re discovering the world.
And that’s absolutely beautiful.
But it seems that every time we manage to achieve something great in our lives, we then feel the need to compare ourselves to other people.
We compare ourselves to coworkers. We compare ourselves to celebrities. We compare ourselves to that nerd we kind of knew in high school.
And you know what? That nerd is now a senior executive at a kick-ass job. And that nerd is getting married. And that nerd is having a baby. And that nerd is living in an awesome apartment. And that nerd is debt-free. And we know all of this because it’s plastered all over social media.
Suddenly, all the awesome stuff we’re doing doesn’t seem to matter all that much.
What matters, instead, is the fact that we’re not senior executives at a kick-ass job. And we’re not getting married. And we’re not having babies. And we don’t live in an awesome apartment and God knows we’re not debt-free.
A.K.A… life sucks….why me?
What did I do to deserve such a lame life?
If you say you haven’t felt this way, you’re probably lying. And that’s fine, I can’t force you to admit it… but we’ve all been there.
I’ve been there.
But we need to make a conscious effort to NOT be there.
Because when we compare ourselves to other people, the only things we see are the things we don’t have.
And that’s a shame, because we should be saving our energy to focus on much more important things.
Instead of seeing the things we DON’T have, we need to focus on what we’ve accomplished. We need to focus on the good in our lives, and we need to be thankful for every bit of it. Then, we need to focus on our goals, on our dreams, on our next steps.
Not on the goals and dreams and next steps of other people.
So as you continue making the most of your twenties, make sure that you’re doing things for the right reasons.
Make sure that you’re saying “YES” to that job because you love it! Not because you want everyone on Facebook to know that you have a job.
Make sure you’re getting married because you love someone. Not because you want to post a picture of your 2 carat diamond to see how many likes you can get.
Make sure you’re having a baby because you’re ready. Not because you’re tired of staying home with your cats while all your friends have mommy/baby play dates.
Focus on yourself. Focus on your life.
Do things not so that the world can see, but so that you can know what you’re capable of. So you can be sure of your worth. Of your potential.
Do things so that you can live the life you’ve always dreamed of. So that you can be happy. Because you deserve that happiness.
You owe yourself that much.
For this post, YouTern thanks our friends at Gen Y Girl!
About the Author: Kayla Cruz graduated college at the age of 20 with a degree in Health Services Administration. She is currently working as a Regulatory Coordinator in Clinical Research while pursuing a Master’s Degree in Public Administration specializing in Human Resources. She has found she’s most passionate about helping young professionals navigate through their first few years as GenYers in the workforce. Follow Kayla on Twitter!
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