Mentors can reduce your learning curve, serve as sound boards for the many ideas running through your head and help you focus on what is really important. Sometimes, however, engaging a mentor like that early morning alarm clock after a rough night – you may not like what you’re hearing, but you know it’s always the necessary truth.
As a way of setting expectations, and so you know what a mentor may tell you at any given point, here are a dozen pieces of advice you may hear from your mentor… ready or not!
Don’t Dictate, Motivate
As a leader, or future leader, it is so easy to fall into the “Dictator” role. You feel in control. It seems like tasks are getting done faster. Long-term, however: bad strategy. Through motivating others toward accomplishment of common goals – rather than dictating – not only will “stuff” get done but those around you will be far more innovative, willing to work nights and weekends on passion projects, and be ready to pivot when times get tough.
Negativity Must Have Balance
We all have stress; challenges are imminent. Despite our best intentions, losing our patience or temper will happen. Allow that negative mindset to become a habit, however, and your entire physicality changes. You become closed and withdrawn; few will choose to follow. Instead, balance that with a smile, spontaneous celebrations of wins and milestones, sincere compliments, and a sense of humor – and you’ll foster loyalty.
Mentor, as You Are Being Mentored
When you are in the position to teach… you learn, absorb and reinforce. Perhaps most important – by having to articulate what worked best for you, and what didn’t, you have the opportunity to reflect on your own accomplishments and near-misses. Plus – and this can’t be emphasized enough – never underestimate how much giving to others makes us feel better about ourselves.
Always Be the Worst Musician in the Band
Jazz guitarist Pat Metheny dispenses this stock piece of advice to all his musical mentees. Put another way… if you have nothing to learn from your immediate partners, team members and network – you stop learning. Always ascend to the next level in your sphere of influence; although it may be a bit unnerving – and will undoubtedly take you outside your comfort zone – this is the only way to ensure you’ll keep growing.
Say What You Are Going to Do; Do What You Say
To your customers, vendors, investors and team members: clearly state what you are going to do and when the task will be completed. Then, do what you said you would do in the time frame established. Lastly, communicate that it is done. Every. Time. This, a mentor will tell you, is the definition of integrity.
People Like to Do Business with People They Like
You wear all the right clothes. You can sell ice to an Eskimo in December. You have an iron-clad pitch you’ve rehearsed over and over; every inflection is perfectly timed. And yet, no one wants to work with you, renew their orders, or form strategic partnerships to thwart competition. Maybe it is time to stop selling… and start building relationships, online and offline? Likable – social, digital and face-to-face – is the not-so-new black.
Failure is Only Good if YOU Learn from the Experience
We keep hearing how failure is good for us. At the time, however, entrepreneurial failure can be incredibly stressful. A good mentor will mitigate that stress by helping you see the bigger picture, learn from the mistakes made and might also throw in: “Sometimes, we get a PhD in what NOT to do.”
Waste No Time on Haters, Victims and Drama Queens
One lesson we all learn – some sooner than others (he says sheepishly) – is that there is just not enough time for those that are determined to be “terminally unhappy”. Those who go way past “MBR” (Must Be Right) to deliberately confrontational (Haters); those who blame everyone but themselves for their current situation (Victims); and those loveable timesucks that leave you wondering how they get anything because you can’t (Drama Queens) need to be left behind. After all, being a babysitter does not make you a good friend.
Surround Yourself with People Who Give a Sh*t
Some of us are “lucky” enough to constantly supported and influence by people who care. A mentor will tell you that luck has nothing to do with this critically important aspect of your life. This is not an accident. Or fate. Or circumstance. Be consistently passionate and vocal about what you care about – and you will attract others who care!
To Change a Bad Habit, You Have to Own It
We all have bad habits – human habits. As a leader, some of your bad habits (i.e., procrastination; failure to prioritize, delegate or motivate; losing your cool in a tough spot) will have a negative impact on your ability to execute. Own the problem, resolve to work on changing – and do it (see No. 5 above).
At Every Opportunity, Upgrade Your Team
Anyone who has been around me long enough has heard this analogy: A baseball coach is responsible for putting the best team on the field. Period. If the third baseman isn’t pulling his weight and is taking the team down with him… you go find a new third baseman. No exceptions.
Put Your Big Girl Panties On
If this stuff was easy, everyone would do it. You are going to have bad days. You are going to get a bunch of negative comments. You are going to run into people that are deliberately confrontational. Get mad for a minute or two, put your big girl panties on, and get over it. You have work to do!
Taking advantage of this advice: a huge benefit to your career and entrepreneurial endeavors.
Finding your own mentor or two: Priceless.
What would you add to this “only from a mentor” advice? What advice do you often dispense as a mentor? As a mentee, what is not on this list would you want to hear from a mentor?
Most important… do you have a mentor?
The original version of this post was published by our friends at 12Most.com.
About the Author: A passionate supporter of Gen Y talent, CEO and Founder of YouTern Mark Babbitt is a serial entrepreneur and mentor. Mark has been quoted in the Wall Street Journal, Mashable, Forbes and Under30CEO regarding internships, higher education’s role in preparing emerging talent for the workforce and career development. Recently, Mark was honored to be named to GenJuice’s list of “Top 100 Most Desirable Mentors”. You can contact Mark via email or on Twitter: @YouTernMark.